Hey! So many posts so little time… Let’s get to chapters 9 and 10!
Intimacy and Distance In Relational Communication
Chapter 9
What is self disclosure and what alternatives do I have? This is the question I asked when I read chapter 9. This is the answers I came up with. Self disclosure in short words, is telling someone how you truly feel about them or a situation. Of course we all don't just blurt out everything that comes to our mind. We have different alternatives to project our message which includes silence, lying equivocating, and hints. Silence is keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself. As the say silence is golden. Lying is to gain an unfair advantage or save face, but everyone has their own personal reason for choosing this alternative. Equivocating is a form of giving two meanings. Example is calling something different, when you could mean that you don't like it or its something creative you've never seen before. Hints are more direct at the topic, but still subtle. These are different ways we communicate with others.
Improving Communication Climates
Chapter 10
Chapter 10 explains the emotional tone of a relationship is called communication climate. This is how some relationships could be easy going while others can be down right horrible. It is depicted on how the climate is when people would be together. Example best friends versus archenemies, the climate with best friends would be described as warm and inviting, while the archenemies would be cold and distant. What determines these types of tones are messages that are valued and negative. Formally called confirming and disconfirming communication respectively. An example of valued can be simply, I love your company, compared to negative you presence is wanted. Our climates vary with different people in different situations, that is what chapter 10 branches off of.
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