Bonus Blog!! (BB)

Hey! Today’s post is mainly about forgiveness. Questions will be answering is what is forgiveness, what is difficult to forgive and what things are easier to forgive.

First ill like to start out with a quote that my teacher gave me that I really liked!

Life becomes easier when we learn to accept an apology we never got. – Robert Brault, Laws of Modern Man

So what is forgiveness to me? Well from the top of my head, I really had to do some soul searching for this answer. I believe forgiveness is when you have reached a certain point when someone has done you wrong and you have a sense of peace. Through my own experiences, I tend not to forgive people until I feel a sense of peace with that person. It’s more like an “I guess we are ok now” feeling.

What is difficult to forgive? There are certain situations where it’s hard for me to forgive. God has forgiven me for everything I have done, but when it comes time for me to do that I can’t help but say “I’m sorry but I’m not God.” The big thing in my mind that I find hard to forgive is when someone breaks my trust. Trust is a big issue for me. So if you don’t have my trust then we have a problem.

What offenses do you find easier to forgive? The small things of course like those everyday mistakes we don’t mean to do to one another. A bigger thing I find easy to forgive is when something is done wrong to me by a person, but soon after without me having to say anything and they know that they did wrong. They at that point already are trying to make their amends. A perfect example for me was when I had an old classmate of an steal something that belonged to me. By mistake they lost it, after seeing how losing something that was dear to me, they quickly confessed and offered to replaced it. Situations like that make forgiveness a whole lot easier.

Well that’s it for today, wishing you all a great Friday tomorrow, Night!  

Looking Out, Looking In: Chapters VII & VIII

Hello! Thanks for visiting my page once again.

This week's post is based on chapters 7 and 8 of the book titled Looking Out, Looking In.

I'm ready when you are!

 

 

Listening: More Than Meets The Ear

Chapter 7

 

Some people know that there is a difference between hearing and listening. If you didn't know I'll to happy to explain. Hearing is defined as "the process in which sound waves strike the eardrum and cause vibrations that are transmitted to the brain." So pretty much hearing is your body's way of letting you hear the sound itself. Listening is based on us giving that sound a meaning. So, why are these two terms different and so important? Well, we can't refuse to hear something unless you put in earplugs, but even then you may hear a muffled sound. Listening on the other hand is a whole different concept because we can choose what we listen too. Examples are that someone could be talking and you could be listening with a greatest attention span in the world or you could be daydreaming and nodding to the person talking because you have other things going on. Chapter 7 is overall about the bad habits and improvements that can be made to help improve listening skills. Yes, it is possible to be a better listener!

 

Communication And Relational Dynamics:

Chapter 8

 

We communicated to maintain our relationships, if we didn't there wouldn't be a relationship to start with. There are many ways to why we form relationships, I'll be giving a brief explanation on each. There are eight main reasons to why we do.

Appearance - based on how looks can attract us to a person

Similarity - how interests keep people close

Complemartity - the saying that "opposites attract"; completing each other

Reciprocal attraction - when we have a sense someone likes us, we also would like them

Competence - Liking others who are especially good at something

Example: My own partner is very artistic, but i can see that he has visible flaws, and hoping is artistic qualities rub off on me

Disclosure - Being close to someone based on how you told them information that is a secret and trusting them to keep it that way

Proximity - people who are around us tend to spend more time with us

Rewards - being able to gain something out of the relationship

Chapter 8 fully explains that communication is the way we keep our relationships and also shows ways we can maintain them.

 

Well, that's it for chapter 7 and 8, I hope you learned much from this blog so far!

Till next time!

Looking Out, Looking In: Chapters V & VI

Hello!! This weeks is about chapters 5 & 6. Same book as before Looking Out, Looking In.

So lets get right into it shall we?

Language: Barrier And Bridge

Chapter 5

This chapter is based on language and language is futher explained as symbolic. When the word symbloic was used they were referring certain words meaning different things to various people.
Words can be both understanding and misunderstanding, to help understand this process three rules are explained.
The Semantic rule is how we assign meanings to words such as book being something that your read, while paper is something to write on. Syntactic Rule is how we say our sentences to get a thought out, or how we grammactically speak.
Lastly the pragmatic rule is based on us understanding the meaning of a word or words in someone elses point of view.

Nonverbal Communication: Messages Beyond Words

Chapter 6

In chapter six, there are seven types of nonverbal communication. Some of the types were things I was not aware of, while others are obvious. Body movement, voice, touch, and appearance are things that I know regulary present to others.

Physcial space, physical evironment, and time were new concepts to me. The physical space shows based on the physcial distance that you're willing to put between yourself and another person can show how you feel about that person. Physical enironment shows that based on the private space we own, like a living room, can reflect who you are as a person. Time is how we use our time with regular activites and how much of it we're willing to spend with others.



 

 

Well thats the important topics of those chapters that caught my eye!

Still next time, Bye!! - Veronica