Looking Out, Looking In: Chapters VII & VIII

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This week's post is based on chapters 7 and 8 of the book titled Looking Out, Looking In.

I'm ready when you are!

 

 

Listening: More Than Meets The Ear

Chapter 7

 

Some people know that there is a difference between hearing and listening. If you didn't know I'll to happy to explain. Hearing is defined as "the process in which sound waves strike the eardrum and cause vibrations that are transmitted to the brain." So pretty much hearing is your body's way of letting you hear the sound itself. Listening is based on us giving that sound a meaning. So, why are these two terms different and so important? Well, we can't refuse to hear something unless you put in earplugs, but even then you may hear a muffled sound. Listening on the other hand is a whole different concept because we can choose what we listen too. Examples are that someone could be talking and you could be listening with a greatest attention span in the world or you could be daydreaming and nodding to the person talking because you have other things going on. Chapter 7 is overall about the bad habits and improvements that can be made to help improve listening skills. Yes, it is possible to be a better listener!

 

Communication And Relational Dynamics:

Chapter 8

 

We communicated to maintain our relationships, if we didn't there wouldn't be a relationship to start with. There are many ways to why we form relationships, I'll be giving a brief explanation on each. There are eight main reasons to why we do.

Appearance - based on how looks can attract us to a person

Similarity - how interests keep people close

Complemartity - the saying that "opposites attract"; completing each other

Reciprocal attraction - when we have a sense someone likes us, we also would like them

Competence - Liking others who are especially good at something

Example: My own partner is very artistic, but i can see that he has visible flaws, and hoping is artistic qualities rub off on me

Disclosure - Being close to someone based on how you told them information that is a secret and trusting them to keep it that way

Proximity - people who are around us tend to spend more time with us

Rewards - being able to gain something out of the relationship

Chapter 8 fully explains that communication is the way we keep our relationships and also shows ways we can maintain them.

 

Well, that's it for chapter 7 and 8, I hope you learned much from this blog so far!

Till next time!